Often parents send their children to school in what they may feel “Looks right.” This is a big fashion no, no. Children today are not interested in the same things that we used to be; though you don’t understand why your children do. This creates hostility in the family as well as in the school; making room for poor learning and social skills.
The importance today of style and fashion has grown since we were in their shoes. Naturally as parents we must understand that education is a large part of self-esteem and social skills. Following these tips fashion will become a breeze and your pocketbook will be at ease.
Most people have a hard time with this one. Have you walked in your child’s school? When the bell rings, the children flood the halls not to go home but to visit their friends and socialize. They form cliques as we used to call them. The groups are formed by fashion, looks, and or parents pocketbooks. Take note: What are they wearing? Ask your child questions about the children; getting “The Who’s; Who of the playground” so to speak.
This is one all mothers love. Look at their clothes; see how much the other parents are paying for them.
The clothes you’ve priced, keep a log about. A couple of weeks with the change; if any, and price of the clothing you saw and where they were. Also list any prices according to the store.
Ask your child what styles they like. What groups do they hope to be in. Take a true interest in your children’s individuality. They may not like everything you pick out for them. How many times did you truly ask your child whether or not they liked something and paid attention to what they said? A lot of the times we think we are; but our facial expressions tell the tale. Most children will not disagree with you, in fear that you will be disappointed.
Make sure that when you talk to them about this you show genuine interest in what they have to say. Don’t do it over dinner come to them and let them know they have your undivided attention. Children know when you are not interested; despite what you think. Sometimes they see it all to much.
As a child it is very difficult to fit in with friends. At school age, children take things more to heart. The more compliments you flood them with, the greater their self-esteem grows. A child is never too young to start flooding with compliments. The more positive you are with them the greater their self-esteem grows. Hearing this from a young age builds good self-esteem.
Open lines of communication
A lot of times children are unsure what to do when things bother them. A second could damage a child for years. Children that are hurt tend to bring this with them; like luggage. Let them know it’s always okay to talk.
Collecting coupons saves money that can be better spent else where. Shop at second hand stores. Sometimes finding styles in the thrift store are possible or another variation of. Buy clothes a little larger; sometimes their clothes are just too small, though we say it fits the children may think otherwise.
Give your child the choice to use a journal, buy a special one just for this occasion. Sometimes an outlet is all the extra help a child needs.
Give your child a power sentence. This gives them the power to understand that they can aspire to be more. Use power statements such as “you’re great”; “you really get it this time”; “you’re my number one”; “you’re beautiful/handsome; “I know you could do it.”
Remember that children are God’s gift to us. Your children are individuals and deserve to be treated as such.
About the author: Lisa Robertson is a featured writer of ArticlesFactory.com. She is a mother of four and currently living in Detroit.