What does it take to have a happy marriage? Is it having money, power, fame? Does being ready mean you are financially equipped or is it more than that?
You look at the power couples of our time like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise, Princess Diana and Prince Charles and think if all you needed was job security and financial stability then why did these couples break up? We used to think of marriage as the ultimate happy ending and feel crushed when our favorite love stories don’t end happily.
So we begin to ask ourselves not just what makes a happy marriage but also what makes it a lasting one?
When I got married three months ago, the number one question that was commonly asked was whether or not I was ready. My husband and I were quick to say that no one is really ready so all we have to do is trust in God and take the plunge. Three months into it and we have come to realize that there is really no formula to prepare you for marriage but we have both hoped that we were at the very least briefed by the realities of it.
“Most couples go into it with the idea that it is a fairy tale,” says my former creative writing teacher now full time events organizer and host, Mico Dimanlig Sadorra. She is quick to say that sometimes young couples focus more on the wedding rather than the foundation of marriage so when faced with challenges, they are left in the dark. This was what sparked her baby project under the influential Manila Workshops called #ReadytoMarry.
The event can be likened to an “intimate” wedding expo where participants don’t only get chance to interact with suppliers but also know the realities of marriage through young speakers who are either experts in their fields (make up, wedding photography, you name it!) and happily married speakers who will share the truths about marriage and real-life tips.
For Mico, preparing for a wedding and marriage are two entirely different things and this is what #ReadytoMarry wishes to infuse, “It is a very intimate event and aside from giving you the chance to ask experts how to make your wedding day you also get to ask married couples about the challenges, realities, and how to overcome them.” It’s a place where couples can really dig deep with those who have been there and help them prepare for a lifetime together.
Even the most sensitive topics such as handling finances, legal matters, and subjects that are usually swept under the rug will be discussed. It will be raw look into marriage and how to be happily in one despite its many challenges.
My husband and I were invited to speak to the young couples to remind them that while finding the love of your life is one of life’s greatest gifts, this doesn’t mean that you should stop honing your self as an individual. Marriage is not the end goal but instead the beginning of the journey.
Register and be #ReadytoMarry by visiting http://manilaworkshops.com/events/ready-to-marry.
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