A SOCIETY without respect and openness to accept and listen to children and youth is like a land without water—everything dies.
Parents, relatives and enlightened community leaders are increasingly alarmed and shocked with the spread and common availability of personality and mind-altering dangerous drugs. With the “internet-of-everything” connecting everybody on smart phones, tablets, laptops and even eyeglasses, young people are exposed to a bombardment of influences more powerful, compelling and dangerous than ever before.
The role model they see before them when entering adolescence has the greatest influence on their lives and self-image. The most important is
the loving, caring parent who teaches by good actions as much as by positive words.
The young person can be inspired and become a socially-involved and active youth helping others if listened to, involved in the life of the family, have good parents or brothers and sisters they can admire and imitate.
If left to themselves as busy parents get more involved with themselves and forget their children’s needs for friendship and companionship, then they could lose their child. Hundreds of thousands of children are running away from home and unloving and abusive parents than ever before. They join street gangs and use dangerous, banned drugs to forget their problems.
In some families without guidance and positive leadership, the children are all too easily groomed, enticed and seduced to the dark side of life by predators lurking on the internet. If children have underlying childhood problems and hurts because of a dysfunctional family, they are extremely vulnerable, will rebel against the neglectful parents and take to hostile behavior; such a family is in grave danger of losing a son or daughter.
The inspiring good example of parents and friends that leads to close bonding and supportive friendship is perhaps the only way in today’s world to bring them to live a safe life of value, fulfillment and dignity. Many a good loving family who care and support their child may lose the latter to the influence of a drug-taking peer group. There is no doubt that acts of abuse and hurt against a child leaves a lifelong inner scar that may never heal. We live in a world where one in every four children suffers abuse. It has created a generation of scarred, pain-filled youth who want justice and retribution. Some may seek relief in painkilling drugs.
The growing neglect and physical and sexual abuse of children in the early formative years of life is the cause of violence and can drive youth to join terrorist groups to take revenge on society.
As young people grow to adolescence, they are seeking meaning and purpose to their lives, and yet childhood hurt blocks the happiness they deserve and need. They have more feelings of exclusion and rejection caused by the childhood memories and inner scars of fear of adults and punishment, and they too turn to chemical substances to try and heal themselves.
That essential experience of feeling of being loved completely is essential for a positive life. When there are few people willing to
listen and understand troubled youth, they turn to other sources of comfort—dangerous drugs, for instance.
The desire for elation and relief found in chemicals can drive them to assuage and anesthetize with drugs their anxieties and feelings of alienation.
When they are materially as well as emotionally poor and deprived of the essentials of life such as a secure home life, nutritious food, education, respect and dignity, they are on the edge of despair and even suicide. Add to that the failure of teenage relationship—more so they will seek out relief in alcohol and dangerous drugs.
The knee-jerk reaction of misinformed and ignorant authority figures is to react in anger and to condemn, blame and punish young people for taking illegal drugs. The adults must listen and learn. What the youth need is to be listened to, express themselves and state their needs and be given supportive counseling.
Their parents and adult leaders must see them as others in great need and give them emotional reinforcement and human understanding. The youth experimenting with painkillers will feel a lot more pain when condemned, and they will reach out for more painkillers rather than less.
The branding as criminals deserving harsh punishment and even summary execution of impoverished drug dependents is a criminal behavior. It is a total failure to understand the underlying plight and needs of the next generation.
Likewise, legalizing any dangerous drug solves none of the problems but exasperates them all the more. It is lunacy to supply chemicals to the youth to tranquilize their deep emotional family problems. What they need is emotional support, understanding and security.
June 26 is designated World Drug Day Against Illicit Drug Use and Trafficking by the United Nations Anti-Drug Agency. Drugs are no substitute for a loving, supportive, listening family and community.
Teachers, parents, community leaders and peer leaders must listen and learn how to respond to the deepest needs and problems of our youth today. This we can do with wisdom and patience, and by living a good life by caring for our family and doing good things to others.