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It is truly amazing how the happiness and misery we experience are
the result of the decisions we make or refuse to make. It was George
Moore who wrote, “The difficulty in life is the choice.”
How true! Look carefully at your past and
you will see the wisdom of those words. A couple decides to marry.
If they choose correctly, they have a full life
and the joys of a dynamic and satisfying relationship. If they make
the wrong choice, the decision to marry backfires and there begins a
series of unfortunate happenings that cause increasing unhappiness.
Caught in a miserable marriage, one couple
decides to go on for any number of reasons and their agony has no
end. Another couple in the same circumstances chooses to break up.
Depending on the outcome, their choice will be seen as beneficial
(good decision) or adding to their grief (bad decision).
A successful businessman is offered a higher
paying job at another firm, but decides to turn it down out of
loyalty to his boss and because he believes he has a brighter future
awaiting him if he stays where he is. Shortly after, his company
collapses. Bad decision.
Everyday we are faced with decisions waiting to
be made. Too often, we let them wait some more. We procrastinate and
out of fear or laziness, we do not decide one way or another. We
decide not to decide. Even that is a kind of decision.
Then there are those impulsive decisions that
are not well thought out. Some of them work out, but most are
regretted. A man is upset when his boss reprimands him and he
responds by yelling at him. It is the beginning of a rocky
relationship. Bad decision.
Some decisions are not made because of fear of
imagined consequences.
Here is a woman who is in pain, but does not
want to see a doctor for fear that he will tell her that she has a
dreaded disease that can kill her. She decides to grin and bear the
pain. When she is rushed to the hospital, they learn that she is
already terminally ill. Bad decision.
Though luck (good or bad luck) does play a part
in our lives, it is not a major factor in determining success and
happiness. What does count more than anything else is wise
decision-making.
Regardless of the circumstances, you will always
have some options to choose from. The choices you make are your
responsibility and the outcome will depend on the wisdom or the lack
thereof that you exhibit in deciding which way to go.
Often we are quick to blame others for our
unhappiness when, in truth, our misery is the result of our own
decisions that come back to haunt us.
If you have problems about drugs, alcohol and
behavior/attitude call my office at 8206107 or 8251771 or e-mail me
at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box 2099 MCPO, Makati
City
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