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IN love, very often your heart is where your
mouth is. Meaning, when a man always talks about his wife or
girlfriend in glowing terms when she isn’t around, there will be
his heart. In the same way, the man who complains a lot about his
woman behind her back, chances are, his love for her has fallen off.
When a man talks a whole lot
about his ex-girlfriend or a woman in the office, that is a red
flag. There may not be anything to it, but then there might be the
stirrings of an affair playing in his heart.
If a man has just ended a
long-term relationship or a marriage, that is something for a woman
to be wary of. If the wounds are still raw and he has been under
heavy stress, it could be that you are the woman of the hour who is
there for him when he has nobody else. After a while, when the hour
is up, he might leave you for someone more to his liking but who
wasn’t there when he went into crisis.
There is trouble on the horizon
when your man always talks about his problems, but has no time to
listen to yours. If this goes on for too long, chances are that he
has pushed you away from his heart.
If you’re single and into a
relationship that has been going on for quite a while (like a year
or two) and he tells you he isn’t yet ready to commit to you, you
should perhaps make other plans for your future without him.
If he doesn’t introduce you to
his friends, he may be hiding something from you. Remember the
phase: “Tell me who your friends are and I will tell you who you
are.” It’s true.
If you’re being courted by a
guy who always talks about the present (having fun, dates, sex, etc)
but rarely wants to discuss the future in any serious way, then you
need to suspect that perhaps this won’t work out. He might be one
of those guys who cannot ever commit to marriage.
If he is critical and even
cynical about love and women in general, then it would be a mistake
for you to believe that you are the exception in his life and you
will change him. Not likely.
If he is vague with his feelings
about you, there is need for worry. You might think that he isn’t
very expressive, but he just also might not love you either to the
degree of intensity you think he does.
Lastly, if he does not invest
emotionally in his relationship with you, that can be and should be
something for you to worry about. The rest of your life can be a
very long time, and it will feel like an eternity if you have to
spend it with a selfish, self-centered man who cannot or will not
feel with you and for you.
If you have problems about drugs,
alcohol and behavior/attitude call my office at 820-6107 or 825-1771
or e-mail me at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box 2099
MCPO, Makati City..
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