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There are so many things that we want to see happen in our lives.
Each one of us has hopes and dreams unique to our values,
personalities and sensibilities. I, especially with my inconceivably
hyperactive imagination and creativity, have a rather lofty list of
what I’d like to achieve in due time. And now that I’m not
getting any younger, I feel the intensity of my desires to reach my
dreams. I always thought that I had been treading on the right path;
that I knew precisely what I was heading for, but then I’d
encounter dead ends and detours that say I have misread the signs.
The youth will always have excuses for mistakes;
age easily enables a turn-around. But sometimes, before you know it,
you might be back in the same spot, minus your youth that makes it
harder to turn around and get back to driving down that highway
again.
Changing a man is harder than building a child.
I thought that I could easily influence everyone, for I had always
been the assertive leader in school, somewhat making me believe that
I can always get things my way. But I realize that no one can move
you with just words. And that those closest to me, especially my
loved ones, are the hardest to move. Our familiarity with one
another does not allow room for us to easily understand or accept
what the other is suggesting. For instance, bad attitudes and
annoying vices that your boyfriend might have may not be that easy
to break. He’d think that you’re intruding into his life too
much, and it only causes tension in the relationship. So, I guess
that the only way to react to these kinds of problems—when those
that you care for seem to be too impossible—is to just change
yourself.
Yes, instead of aspiring to change the other
person, why not concentrate on yourself first since your own self is
the only territory that you can have dominion over? Perhaps if you
do not become too consumed in making the other into your perception
of “better,” then things might naturally change and they’ll
begin to see your efforts for what they’re worth. Giving up on
another person is also a way of not giving up on him.
We all get to a point in our lives where our
vibrant dreams suddenly turn into a dismal blur. Some would instruct
us to do our part then leave it all to God. On the other hand, some
would insist that your human abilities are just not enough. So which
is it, really? Is it because you lack the faith and fervent prayers
to back your aspirations, or are you really not capable of receiving
what you long for because of your lack of skills, patience or
education? I guess that certain elements will always come to play
when it comes to the achievement of things that we hope for. The
first is your actual qualifications.
Ask yourself, are your credentials, training and
experience sufficient for whatever goal you want to achieve? You
cannot be the CEO of a large, multinational firm if you didn’t
even finish college. Some may argue that there are still some people
who make it big even without the necessary education, as seen in the
success stories of dropouts who have become tech magnates or street
children who have metamorphosed into boxing superstars. But this is
simply a myth; one way or another, these people have paved their way
to get there. They did not simply wake up one day with the hand of
God casting them from the slums to the big time. They had to work
long hours, developed virtues and self-studied to know how to get to
where they are now.
And now you wonder why you have all it takes and
you’re even overqualified, but you still don’t seem to be
getting anywhere. Here’s where life’s most important aspect
comes into play—making a huge effort where it matters most. There
are those who might not be as talented, but they have excelled more
because of their perseverance. After all, diamonds are simply bits
of coal that stuck to their jobs. I admit that I am one of the many
people who are guilty of the lack of this—I allowed myself to
drift from one job to another, not focusing on just one thing
because I thought that I could do everything. I also confess that
I’ve considered immediate gratification rather than knowing the
ropes and then earning my wings to orchestrate the show. Like most
of the young people, I’ve sought acceptance, popularity and easy
money. We all forget top build up on the essentials and never run
out of excuses for not sowing yesterday what we could be reaping
today.
Forgiving our mistakes and pledging to get
better is the first way to get somewhere right. There’s a fine
line between keeping your mess and fixing up straight. Your decision
today will determine your tomorrow.
Blog: apotheosis.multiply.com; email:
marylaine_viernes@manilatimes.net
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