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All men are sexual. That is how God made them. And
when they pursue women, sex is surely on their minds. Women have, of
course, long known this and see this as a weakness of men.
The woman who does not value
herself or who is desperate for a man will try to exploit this by
playing sex games to get his attention.
She might wear revealing clothing
and hope that by awakening him sexually, she will trap him into
getting into a serious relationship with her. Unless he is a total
idiot, he will surely see what she is up to. Her signals are clear.
Her writing on the wall says, “I am yours for the taking.”
The predator will be quick to
oblige her. He will use his charm and say all the right things to
lead her to the bedroom. She will think her strategy has worked
until he has had enough of her and goes off looking for another
conquest.
This type of woman is easy
pickings. She is no challenge at all and the men who want to play
have fun with her but don’t want to get serious with her. They
might pretend to be serious and even make lots of the promises that
she wants to hear, but when the time comes to commit over the long
term, they have a way of disappearing.
Men are often heard to say
“There are women to play with, and then there are women to
marry.” The woman who is too direct in using the idea of sex when
trying to get a man, is sending the wrong message to the mature man
looking to form serious, loving relationship.
Men can easily get sex. There are
bars, motels and more than enough women willing to give themselves
to any guy for a price (and often for a ridiculously low price).
That isn’t what a man who is searching for a lifetime partner is
looking for. This isn’t the kind of woman he is convinced that he
can trust. Not the woman he would want to be the mother of his
children.
Sure, if he cannot control
himself, he will end up in bed with her. When, however, he comes to
his senses after the heat of passion has subsided, he will have
second thoughts about her. The less selective man who has a jumbled
set of priorities and an unclear set of values might get caught in
the sex trap and somehow find himself married to her one day. She
will have gotten her man but the future with him will most likely
not be what she wished for.
If you have problems about
drugs, alcohol and behavior/attitude call my office at 8206107 or
8251771 or e-mail me at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box
2099 MCPO, Makati City.
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