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Men like challenges. They climb Mount Everest “because,” as the
conqueror of the highest peak in the world said, “it is there.”
Men worth their salt are looking to challenge themselves to do the
difficult. They spend lots of time trying to master a sport, working
towards a difficult goal. They hunt and go off to war. They struggle
in their careers and exert efforts to make it to the top.
Men who are thinking men also want to be
challenged when it comes to finding the right woman. They are not
looking for an easy woman because there is something in them that
tells them that it is just too easy. So easy that perhaps it isn’t
worthwhile.
Men are strange in this regard. They might be
quick to jump into bed with a willing woman, but slow to commit to
the same woman who accommodated their request for sex. They are very
willing to play the game of love with women, but, like good poker
players, women more often than not end up losing because they cannot
read men very well.
I have spoken to many women who told me they
were sure that they were “in control” of the relationship, only
to learn later that the whole time it was the guy who had
manipulated her into thinking that it was so. They were left weeping
while the man went off on his merry way.
It has been proven time and again how difficult
it is to keep a long-term love relationship burning intensely. Love,
like most interesting things, tends to get boring and listless
unless it is continuously challenged. The incredibly long list of
failed relationships is proof of just how difficult it is to
maintain a dynamic love over the years.
Getting into love is easy. You don’t really
have to try. You simply “fall” in love. In fact, if you are
already in a committed relationship, there will be times when you
will have to fight off good feelings that are pulling you into an
affair that can destroy your relationship.
Falling in love is as easy as staying in love is
difficult and challenging. You know how many others (friends, family
members, etc) have failed and you don’t want to join their ranks.
If you are matured, you want a partner you can count on over the
long haul. Someone who can help you through the inevitable crises
that lie ahead on the road of life. That is a real challenge and the
thinking man wants a woman who can be challenged like him.
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If you have problems about drugs, alcohol and
behavior/attitude call my office at 8206107 or 8251771 or e-mail me
at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box 2099 MCPO, Makati
City.
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