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Sir Lloyd,
I’ve read your column last week
about commitment. It’s really great. What a piece of advice! I
hope I can ask you about my problem, too. Just resigned for a new
job but I think it will be hard for me to find a new job. What must
I do?
Name withheld
Dear friend,
First, thank you for reading my
career advice column. Second, let me go straight to the core of the
matter: Man isn’t defined by what he refuses to believe but by
what he chooses to affirm.
Allow me to go deeper to my
straightforward advice. After all, I think it will be helpful for
you and for anyone to be aware about what I call “controlling
perspective.” Some call it mindset.
It’s interesting to know that
what denies us doesn’t matter as much as it is irrelevant to our
lives. In my personal experience with some of the country’s finest
entrepreneurs and business leaders, I’ve learned that what they
don’t want doesn’t count. They are all made up of what they
believe to be true—what they choose to believe.
Wandering along with the
middle-class and seeing their perspective about life, it’s an
exact opposite. Many average individuals make a big deal out of what
they don’t have and what they don’t want. The problem with this
is what they think become more real than it is mental. What they
think and what they focus on eventually becomes their reality. Some
of these people are oftentimes angry about something that are either
unclear to them or worse about something that are totally irrelevant
about their being angry. Most of them blame the outside environment
and the people around them.
Just recently, I received a
message from somewhere in Bukidnon via chat asking me for a personal
advice. He requested to send it to his personal email. I said he can
just read my previous column because I thought that would make it
easier for both of us. And so I gave the link.
I was surprised when he insisted
to get my advice to his personal inbox. I said that’s the same
message that I’m going to give him anyway so he’d rather read it
there. He seemed to have no choice.
Just right after that, he talked
about my book. He said he wanted to have it for free and so he gave
his address and ask me to send it speedily. He justified that he’s
a low income and he barely have enough. He was keeping on saying
that he’s poor. On the other side, he was telling me that one day,
he’ll be like me—successful.
By saying so, I suspect that he
was unaware using a reverse psychology. My book is only P350. He
wants to become a millionaire. He keeps on saying he’s poor. But,
he wants to be rich.
Here’s what affirmation tells
us: What you believe is what you see. It’s no longer seeing is
believing.
I told the guy that if he cannot
do something to get my book at P350, how can he expect to get his
first million? One million pesos is very far from P350 and everybody
knows that. How can you endure the challenges that come along our
way to becoming a millionaire if we can’t endure that of getting
the P350?
Many of the poor stay poor
because, day after day, that’s what they tell themselves. As I
always tell my audience during my seminars, telling yourself that
you don’t want to be poor anymore is different from telling that
you want to be rich. Notice the first part of this column: What
denies you doesn’t count—only what you affirm yourself.
So why not have a slight change
of mindset—a controlling perspective—that can change your entire
life. Who knows there might be something great awaiting you
somewhere in your horizon?
As I write this column, I’m
waiting to board in PR281 bound to Cagayan de Oro. I’m speaking on
the Mindanao Youth Business Forum. Do you know what I’m thinking
now? I’m affirming that my performance will be greater and more
fun than all my previous speaking engagements! Eventually when I’m
on stage, that’s exactly what’s going to happen. Simply,
that’s what I affirm.
Value your dreams,
BIG
[Big Lloyd Luna, the
best-selling author of Is There a Job Waiting for You?, is a career
philosopher, a website engineer and a motivational speaker. He is
the president and CEO of The LLOYDLUNA Communications and the
founder of Value Your Dreams Movement. Do email at
lloyd(at)lloydluna.com and visit www.lloydluna.com. To send a
message, type LUNA <your message> send to 2299.]
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