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Love can make the wisest look foolish. How often have
we seen intelligent men and women suddenly behave as if they are
little children when they fall in love! The matured act like the
immature when bitten by the love bug. Well-balanced persons get
unhinged when feelings of love become intense in the extreme.
The king of England stepped down
and abdicated his throne because of love. He went off and married a
divorcee. Countless successful men were taken down by unwise affairs
with women who won their hearts. Men in solid marriages suddenly
behave like teenagers when they unexpectedly meet and fall in love
with a strange woman. Women you would never suspect are capable of
having an affair do just that: they go off with another man.
Love is very strange sometimes.
It is a mystery that can hardly be understood by the lovers
themselves. I have asked so many people in love what it is that
makes them hold on to their beloved. Most will repeat the usual
platitudes about love. “He’s so kind, thoughtful and …” a
few words and then silence. Not many people can truly understand why
they are in love. What they will simply tell you is, “all I know
is that I love him [her].” And that is supposed to say it all.
It doesn’t, of course, and when
love goes sour and starts to fall part, lovers have little or no
idea what is happening. They are equally at a loss to repair the
damage. That is why so many relationships that could be fixed,
don’t get fixed. Damage that could easily be repaired doesn’t
get repaired and the foundations of love begin to crumble because of
neglect and a lack of understanding.
Love is about many things, but
the most dangerous element is feelings. When feelings become so
intense that they cloud the mind, anything can and usually does
happen. The careful man suddenly becomes careless. The prudent woman
who is overwhelmed by feelings she cannot control gets herself into
high-risk situations and finds herself struggling to get out of her
messy situation.
Even counselors, psychiatrists
and men and women who should know better get trapped by feelings of
love and end up doing foolish things. They go directly against the
advice they would give their clients because the lure of feelings of
love seems to immobilize rational thinking. There is more twisted
thinking in love affairs than you can ever imagine. People do the
dumbest things in the name of love.
If you have problems about
drugs, alcohol and behavior/attitude call my office at 8206107 or
8251771 or e-mail me at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box
2099 MCPO, Makati City.
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