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This is compilation of lessons about what love
actually is culled from movies, fairytales and Oprah.
Love doesn’t actually complete
you. You can’t look for someone else to complete you. Before you
can truly love another, you have to first be whole and love
yourself.
Love actually inspires you, which
is different from changing you. Love enhances what is already there
and brings out the best in you. It makes you want to be a better
person for the other.
Love doesn’t actually have to
hurt. According to Oprah and Dr. Phil, if you really love someone,
you would never do anything that would deliberately hurt them. If a
relationship is no longer healthy, you have to know when you need to
love yourself more in the name of self-preservation.
Love actually isn’t blind. It
sees everything about the other and wholeheartedly chooses to accept
and love anyway.
The test of true love is actually
real everyday life. It is so easy to get caught up in the highs of
romance, but it is equally challenging (if not moreso) to stay
together through the routinary, mundane inanities of everyday life
like driving through traffic to and from work and paying the bills.
Love someone you can not only
talk endlessly with, but can also actually enjoy a comfortable
silence with. Often, more is said in silence than in pleasant
conversation.
Love is actually friendship on
fire. Love is often best when served with equal portions of passion
and friendship—two complementary elements that will help keep the
fire going. In the end, if the passion burns out, at least you will
always have friendship to fall back on.
Love endures and actually lasts
with space. Space isn’t a divider, it is a breather that allows
you to still be your own person. Though you may be part of a couple,
you also need to maintain individuality. (Which is by the way,
sometimes, the secret to sanity.)
Love actually isn’t the only
thing you need. It isn’t exactly accurate to say that love is all
you need. Love can not survive without other virtues like respect,
trust and forgiveness.
Love need not be
complicated—you can actually love someone simply because they
exist. People will come into your life whom you will find you can
love simply because they are part of your life. They can be your
children, your siblings, your nieces and nephews, and if you’re
lucky enough, your partner.
E-mail your thoughts about this
thing called love to thesinglefiles@gmail.com
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