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Here are some random thoughts I would like to share with you.
It’s true that love can make you do things you
would normally never do. Guys who have no manners suddenly become
polite. When before they would rush by you to enter a door, now they
stand aside and hold the door open for you. They stop drinking
because you object to it. They don’t go out as much with their
friends.
All very nice, but the question remain: for how
long? A sudden change of behavior is always suspect and should be
taken with a grain of salt. The French have a saying which loosely
translated, goes like this: chase away old habits and they come
storming back like a herd of wild horses.
Be careful about believing in the value of
sudden changes in behavior. Give it more time before making a final
judgment.
Sometimes, when you lose, you win in the long
run. Don’t get too upset when things don’t work out as planned.
So often in life a setback is just a setup for something bigger and
better. Just keep moving forward and you will find that so many
“defeats” were introductions to success.
Many of us are afraid of the unknown. So scared
of it are we that we hesitate (and often simply refuse) to move
ahead even when opportunities are there for the taking. Believe in
yourself. Trust your skills, your courage and determination to
succeed. Then plunge forward and see what happens. Even if things
don’t work out, you will surely learn some lessons which will be
helpful in the future. More than that, you will have tested your
courage and learned that the unknown isn’t so scary after all.
Some people who have been unfairly treated are
out for revenge. The spend time looking for ways to get even. I
think that is a waste of time and energy. Instead of running around
searching for ways to hurt, it is better, I think, to get even by
becoming more successful. There is nothing more irritating than to
watch an enemy move up the ladder to success. Torment your enemy by
becoming more and more successful.
The best strategy, however, is to forgive your
enemy. Here is why. When you truly forgive, you become peaceful and
serene. That is something that your tormentor finds difficulty
accepting. He wants you angry and defocused. If, on the contrary,
you are calm and at peace, that it is the hardest thing for him to
live with.
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If you have problems about drugs, alcohol and
behavior/attitude call my office at 8206107 or 8251771 or e-mail me
at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box 2099 MCPO, Makati
City.
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