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A married woman recently sent me an e-mail concerning a column I
wrote about cheating spouses. It seems that this young couple is
expecting a baby in the coming months. The woman was naturally happy
and excited about her pregnancy until she “started getting this
strange feeling” that her husband was hiding something. She asked
him if he was okay and tried to reassure him. Still “this feeling
wouldn’t go away” so one day she checked his cellphone and
discovered some texts “arranging for him to go to a female
executive’s house for dinner.” Though he told her that they were
“just friends,” still he lied to her the night he was supposed
to “go to her for dinner.”
Strange isn’t it? Or, is it the modus operandi
of a man who is flirting or just having an affair? The big-time
question is why would he lie if all that was happening was a simple
dinner? And why at her home? If it was about business, why in her
house? If it wasn’t about business, then what business did he have
to go there for dinner and lie about it?
Questions that beg to be answered. I smell a rat
and I told her so. I also told her to trust her intuition. Intuition
is often ignored when it prods us to look into matters that could
upset us. The number of women who ignore even the clearest signs of
infidelity are legion. When we don’t want to know because we will
have to deal with unpleasantness and perhaps even devastating
situations that would surely cause us great distress.
But a woman loses nothing by trusting her
intuition and looking into the matter more intently. She can be as
gentle and as diplomatic as can be, and still do her quiet
investigation. And if she does find something that does not add up,
then, if she moves on it, she might be able to deal with the problem
in its early stages and save herself a bundle of problems later on.
Intuition serves us well if only we are gutsy
enough to listen to it and act on it. Intuition is often like the
alarm clock that serves to wake us up to something that we should
know. To ignore it is unwise.
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behavior/attitude call my office at 8206107 or 8251771 or e-mail me
at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box 2099 MCPO, Makati
City.
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