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Second of seven parts
Another red flag that is an
indicator of a shaky relationship is when you get the feeling that
you are drifting apart. If you feel that way, chances are that your
feelings are reflecting reality.
Remember that loving is not a
science. It is an art with infinite variations and complexities.
When you fell in love, you felt it before you could prove it. The
same is true when you are falling out of love. You will feel it
before you know for sure that your love is dying.
Many lovers sense the drift that
is setting into their relationship, but they refuse to accept it.
They are afraid to acknowledge that things are turning bad for them.
There is always something dreamy about love, something unreal,
something difficult to put your finger on. There is a lot of sensing
that goes on, a lot of credence given to feelings. And that is the
way it should be.
When you get that painful feeling
in your gut that your partner is drifting from you, pay attention.
More so if you feel that you are running out of gas when it comes to
your relationship. Know then that if you neglect this sign, the
drift will only accelerate and get a lot worse.
A third negative sign is you
experience long periods of disappointment. Somehow, things are not
working out the way you expected them to. If before, things were
moving along well, now the opposite is true. A lot of your
expectations have gone unmet, and that has meant disappointments,
one after the other for quite a while.
That surely is a red flag that
needs attention. It means that your love is shaky and headed for
trouble. No love can bear too many disappointments without
experiencing setbacks.
Next sign has to do with
decision-making. The more your love progresses and moves forward,
the more will you share important decision making. That is because
people in love want to integrate themselves and become one. Deciding
important matters together goes a long way in bringing that about.
When you feel a lot of resentment
about your beloved because of unilateral decision-making that is a
sign that your relationship isn’t as healthy as you think it is.
When your loved one makes his own decisions without consulting you
first, this does not look good for the future. You can expect more
of that later on. Unilateral decision making is also a sign of
disrespect. If you truly respect a loved one you will not decide
matters unilaterally.
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drugs, alcohol and behavior/attitude call my office at 8206107 or
8251771 or e-mail me at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box
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