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There are moments in every man’s life when the sun
is suddenly obscured and storm clouds gather on the horizon, times
when everything seems to go wrong.
The dry season has set into a
man’s heart and where there was once lush greenery there is now
only dust and withering leaves turned a dull brown. He feels pushed
into the corner by his enemies and abandoned by his friends.
His faith in God is shaken.
Perhaps, worst of all, he feels deep and painful loneliness which
cuts silently into his heart and causes him indescribable anguish.
He sees his dreams fade into nothingness and he does not seem to
have the inner strength to dream new ones. It appears to him that
all the positiveness in his life has suddenly vanished almost
without a trace. He feels he has nobody to turn to since his friends
are nowhere to be found.
It is in times like these that
the saying factor must be either a strong faith in God or in someone
who can move in quickly and be a positive force for renewal. There
is a desperate need for a “bridge over troubled waters.” There
is need for some safety from the turbulent waters below.
In other words, what is needed is
a measure of peace, a cessation of inner conflict. That is why it is
of utmost importance that someone come into the picture who will
serve to instill calm, someone who will inspire trust and
confidence. Someone who can create an emotional climate that is
conducive to openness and sharing.
When a man is down, lonely and
beaten, he needs to hear kind words of encouragement. Because of his
tendency to wallow in self-pity, he needs to be assured that he is
still very much wanted and highly regarded by his peers. He needs to
be accepted and loved. He must be convinced of his own self-worth.
We all fall into the depths of
discouragement and even despair at one time or another in our lives.
Nothing unusual about this, I have yet to meet a mature person who
has not felt the pain of rejection. It is an integral part of the
human condition which cannot be avoided. Money, power, position and
fortune cannot protect us from loneliness.
If only we can show enough
intelligence to recognize loneliness when it makes its appearance in
our lives and if we are humble and mature enough to ask for help in
dealing with it, then it becomes an experience that can help us to
grow greatly. It is not loneliness that kills the human spirit.
It’s the inability to deal with it properly that destroys.
If you have problems about
drugs, alcohol and behavior/attitude call my office at 8206107 or
8251771 or e-mail me at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box
2099 MCPO, Makati City.
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