The quarter life crisis


Believe it or not, it was Kate Bosworth who introduced the term “quarter life crisis” to me.

It was in 2006, and she blamed her break up on being “lost” because she was 25 and unsure of what life meant to her.

I immediately announced to my best friend that I, too, was going through the same thing to which he replied, “But you’re 18.”

Fast-forward seven years later, and I suddenly realize that I didn’t know what Kate Bosworth was talking about.

It’s the middle of a hectic Wednesday as I write this and I am overwhelmed by things to do, bills to pay, and life in general.

On most days, my little sunshine-y attitude wins. I see life as a big party full of rainbows and butterflies, but on tough days like this one, I can’t help but ask, “Is this all there is to it?”

To come from a generation that was told they can “achieve” anything they want as long as they set their minds to it, may not have been a good thing. Because with that frame of mind, we are constantly in search for something more and probably never going to be satisfied with whatever a “simple life” might be.

With everything available to us through the Internet, plus travel more accessible than ever been, I’ve been asking myself, “Am I missing out on happiness because I’m not taking advantage of what’s easily out there?”

As the first generation to be fully immersed in this fantastic world of technology, are
we losing our sense of what truly matters in life?

Everyone keeps telling me to “live free” and “travel,” but at the same time, my attempts to do so are thwarted by bills, and other “adult” life matters.

I experienced my quarter life crisis a year ago. I was in the middle of the perfect day job, my dream job. I was an educational therapist for children with special needs, a college professor, and was on the verge of putting up my own department when I realized I was spending more time daydreaming about where I should be instead of enjoying where I was.

It realized I needed change, suddenly, all of my questions vanished. And today, even as I face tough days, I no longer question my purpose, and it makes waking up everyday worth it.

When something in your gut tells you that you need a change in your life, go for it, I say. With all the challenges it will surely bring.  We are still, after all that generation that believes we can do anything.


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