“Women do not have to sacrifice personhood if they are mothers. They do not have to sacrifice motherhood in order to be persons. Liberation was meant to expand women’s opportunities, not to limit them. The self-esteem that has been found in new pursuits can also be found in mothering.”
— Elaine Heffner
THESE wise words should serve as an eye-opener for many women in today’s society. At an age when most of my friends were launching into a career, I got myself promoted as a ‘mother’. While they found their pride of achievement in distinctions and pay-packages, I found mine in my son’s first smile. My self-esteem boomed when he took his first step. I found joy and fulfillment in giving up a career to bring up my son.
However, others just cannot understand this.
“You are a chartered accountant! You cannot sit simply … you must do something!” they say.
Do they realize that, by and large, mothers and housewives are the only workers who do not have regular time off? They are the great vacation-less class.
While most of my office-goer friends work around 8 to 12 hours, my work hours are 6 a.m. to 11:30 p.m. around 18 hours—and they say I sit simply. You may think that my hubby would help around the house and in looking after my son. He does but a little and only sometimes. Even husbands help only working wives. Little do they realize that we need their help more! Nowadays, giving up a career is seen as a sin, and there are so many working moms out there, who fret away the whole time in the office thinking about their little kid at the crèche. Believe me, it’s not worth it.
Your little darling needs you (at least till 3 to 5 years of age). He wants you to feed him, to clothe him, bathe him and kiss his wounds. If you cannot, then give him to at least a grandparent. Though it will not be the same, it is definitely better than a crèche. Put your career on a hold; a few years will not damage it. Freelance (like me) or work part-time. Remember, down the line, your kid will not remember all his expensive possessions but he will treasure every moment spent with you!
Sacrificing marriage and motherhood for the sake of career is the most stupid thing anyone can ever do.
Biological possibility and desire are not the same as biological need.
Women have childbearing equipment. For them to choose not to use the equipment is no more blocking what is instinctive than it is for a man who, muscles or no, chooses not to be a weightlifter. – Betty Rollin
About the author: Archana Sarat is featured writer of Articlesgratuits.com. Her published pieces are displayed in the Blog page of her site at www.freewebs.com/freelanceauthor. She was a student of the Writer’s Bureau, United Kingdom and is also a member of the Association of Freelance Journalists, England.